Emotion and Logic
The extremes god (?) gave my parents and the balance I’ve been blessed with. I feel as though my parents speak different languages. Mommy has this fiery passion and magnetic energy while Thaththi has a more calculated, warm approach with undying patience. How do they work? They argue all the time over what seems to be insignificant miscommunications. I have seen how my mother will make a dramatic escape, drive away, and not return for hours while my father stays at home, a silent sufferer. I have noticed that it’s easier for people to sympathize for my father, simply because he is soft spoken and less expressive. Just because my mother is more vocal about her pain, it doesn’t make it less real or less substantial. Pain is pain. We should recognize it regardless of what form it chooses. Whoops. Tangent.
love is written into the world
Sometimes I feel like I am a personal translator when I’m at home. I really wonder how they manage to get one thought across to each other. Mommy has an abstract mind, she views the world through rare eyes. She sees shapes and colours with so much clarity and feeling, a natural artist almost to a synesthetic degree. Thaththi is a numbers guy. He finds beauty in symmetry and neutral tones and has a mind of 5 men combined. I know what you’re thinking. I’m probably exaggerating because they are my parents and naturally I think the world of them and want to believe all of these amazing things about them bla bla bla. Hello, I’m not 5. They really are extraordinary people and I took them for granted for the majority of my pubescent/teenage life. Just trust me when I say this, because when you meet them, you’ll understand.
So I ask again. How do they work? For years I wondered why they were together. It didn’t make sense. On the surface they were completely different… but it took me a while to understand it. They possess the same core. Their exteriors are polar opposites, but their hearts and souls beat with the same rhythm of love. They see straight through to one anothers’ pure hearts and sincere motives. They both work hard and give back to the world. Mommy organizes programs and Thaththi funds them. They are a team, twin souls with the aim of spreading love and kindness. They have a profound love and secret admiration for each other. My father feeds off of my mother’s fierce passion and determination while mommy quietly is thankful for Thaththi’s diplomatic ways.
Anyways, I guess my overall point is (cringe) love conquers all. The world would spin with more ease if we were driven by the kindness within our hearts. People are discouraged by conflicting futures, differences in opinion or long distance. Don’t fight the love, fight the distance. A relationship doesn’t feel like work if you are governed by love. It is worth the effort if you are willing to invest. Now, there is a difference between giving yourself and giving up yourself. I will have to write about that in another blog… All I’m saying is,
give in to love and let love give to you.